If someone gives you feedback that you need to “project more confidence” …

Ask them to give you specific examples. 

What EXACTLY do they want you to do differently?  

What is the benefit to the business of you making those changes? 

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Managing juniors can be SO annoying. 

• They don’t do what you want them to do. 
• They miss deadlines and prioritise other people’s work.

It feels maddening.

But be careful about what you make all of that MEAN. 

Our brains are always spinning...

Hey {{first_name}}

Something I hear all the time from my clients is…

“Are you a mind-reader? How do you know exactly what I’m thinking?”

 It’s not magic. I’m not secretly bugging their home.

I know what they’re thinking...

Being a lawyer is hard enough… without having to work for someone who’s reactive, unpredictable or lacking in basic leadership skills. 

If I could wave my magic wand and change them … I would.

In the meantime, here are some tips to help you navigate working with them.

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This is my regular reminder to stop WAITING for confidence.  

You don’t need to feel confident before you: 

• Speak-up in a group meeting
• Take the lead on that next client call
• Put your hand for the new scary opportunity. 

Confidence in doing a specific thing comes AFTER...

Have you ever stood awkwardly in the corner of a networking event, not wanting to interrupt other people’s conversations and wondering about the earliest acceptable time to leave?  

Not that I speak from experience or anything…  

Here are some tips to help:

• Be...

Do you struggle with over-thinking? 

In an industry full of anxious overachievers, you are definitely not alone.  

Here are some quick tips to help:

• Worry Bucket: Schedule 15 minutes later in the day designated just for worrying.  Until then, you’re not allowed to think...

Clients often ask me…

“How do I stop making “silly” mistakes when I’m working late?”

Firstly, just a reminder that you’re HUMAN. Your brain doesn’t function at 100% late at night. It’s NORMAL to make mistakes in those conditions.

Also…...

I used to think that, to feel more confident and stop second-guessing myself, all I needed to do was learn MORE. 

Surely, more knowledge meant less mistakes and tons of confidence… 

Sadly, every year I stepped up a qualification level, which meant that people kept asking me more...

Do you ever lie awake at night worrying about mistakes you might have made… or how to fix a mistake you definitely DID make?  

It’s always worse in the middle of the night. 

You’re too tired to see things objectively, so your worst fears have a party! 

And...